Often, parents ask me: “How do we keep the peace and connection when our family is running in so many directions during this season of expectations, stress and overwhelm?
The buzzing energy of stress we feel inside our bodies, as we navigate each day and look ahead to what’s next on our robust to-do lists, can be tamed. And the key to quieting the outside noise, pressure and demand is not to completely give up and eradicate those to-do’s from our list and surrender. Most of us don’t have that option. What we DO have, is the ability to pause.
In our world of high demands, our teenagers are pulled outside of themselves to accomplish and complete that which lies outside of them. As we all venture outside to work, do, learn, complete, and accomplish, we are separated from our inner selves – that quiet, peaceful place inside us all that grounds us.
Instead, our attention is given to all the things outside of us where we must perform as students, college applicants, parents, managers, doers and more. What can we do now, while in the midst of the stress, school finals, college application deadlines, family responsibilities and work demands? Pause. And give ourselves a dose of our own ‘unique medicine’.
Model this pause for your teenager by gifting this dose of calm to yourself, first. Then, share these ideas so your teenager and family may pick and choose their favorite pause options.
As I’m writing this blog post, it happens to be a go-go-go, give-give-give time I’m of the year – and this type of ‘busy’ is becoming a year-round way of life for our teenagers. I’m here to remind you to give to yourself in the form of a pause. Rest and attention to yourself is not only an important part of your health and wellbeing, but it reinvigorates as we navigate the season of all things busy, bustling and full…in the most cozy, comfy and warm way possible.
When it all gets to be just too much for your teenager and the road ahead is too full, too confusing or they just need support figuring out what’s next…reach out for a complimentary Discovery Call to discuss if life coaching for your teen is what’s needed.
Life coaching helps answer those daunting questions teenagers have as they face their big life transition:
What should I do?
How do I get motivated?
What should I major in?
How do I get rid of this anxiety?
Who am I now?
Holly McClain, M.Ed. is a Counselor and Certified Life Coach for teens and young adults. She specializes in navigating life’s transitions, establishing one’s sense of self as well as mindset, emotions and Career Development work. Holly’s experience working with adolescents and families includes a 20+ year career in the California Public Education System as a School Counselor and Educator. Holly currently owns a private counseling and coaching practice supporting adolescents, working one-on-one with clients and families, as well as facilitating groups and circles. A San Francisco Bay Area native, Holly currently lives in the greater Sacramento Area and works with clients globally.